My Christmas Disappointment… 

Dear MUB,

Earlier up in the year, I went to the movies with one of my friends. After the movie, we decided to touch down at this event. I wasn’t working at the time and it had been a long while since I’ve been out of my house. To be honest, the only reason I went out was because it was his birthday.

While we were there, I realized this girl was just staring at me. I decided to go over and ask her, the reason for watching me in such a manner. She said that she wasn’t looking at me, she was watching the wall. I know she was lying so I just laughed. Anyways, I asked her to tell me her name. You know the woman looked pan mi with one straight face and tell me that mi haffu buy she one drink first. I told her ok and never passed back.

Now, the vibe was nice and I was enjoying a cup of vodka and LLB. Once again, I happen to catch another female looking at me. Now, the first “drinks digger” already taught me a lesson so I waved to this one telling her to come over. To my surprise, she came.

As soon as she came over, I made it clear that I didn’t have a job, I’m here on my friend’s expense and I am not in the position to buy her a drink. It was obvious that she found it funny. To my surprise, she pulled me to the bar and asked me what will I be drinking. I wasn’t sure if she was expecting me to pay for it so to be on the safe side, I told her I didn’t have any money. This girl did the weirdest but sweetest thing any girl ever did to me. She flicked my nose with her finger and told me to order a drink.

So, I ordered a drink and she paid for it. I was expecting this girl to come back and chill with me but all she said was enjoy your drink and walked off. Look, I was beyond confused. For the whole night, I kept looking for her. When I finally saw her again, I didn’t know how to approach her. She came to me and asked me if I wanted another drink. I didn’t want to seem greedy so I told her I was good.

We tried to have a conversation but the music was too loud so we went outside. We eventually stayed outside talking until she was ready to leave. When she was leaving, I asked her for her number but she told me to give her mine.

MUB, this girl didn’t call me until about 2 months later. She explained that she was in a relationship at the time so she didn’t want to lead me on. It turns out that she eventually left her boyfriend because she caught him cheating on her for the third time with one of her coworkers. We started talking to the point that we got really close. I got a job and sometimes she would drop off something for me to eat. MUB, sometimes after 12 in the night, this woman would leave her house and bring something for me to snack on.

She was genuinely nice to me and I realize that I was kinda taking advantage of her niceness plus I was dealing with someone behind of her back because she didn’t seem to be interested in having sex. So, around mid-November, I kinda backed off. One day, I was home and I started feeling a lot of pain so I called the girl I was dealing with and asked her to come and take care of me. You know the girl tell me that she wouldn’t be able to make it because she has an appointment to do her weave. Before I was able to tell her how bad the pain was, my credit finish.

MUB, around mid-day, the pain got 10 times worse. I swear I was going to die. I tried screaming out for help but It wasn’t enough for anyone to hear me and trying to talk only created more discomfort. Look, I told myself that was it. I called out to God and asked him to forgive me for my sins and I told him, if it wasn’t my time to go please send me an angel.

MUB, you might not believe me but a few minutes after I said Amen, guess who walked in. Yes, it was her. She was on her lunch break so she came over to bring me something to eat. She was able to get inside the house because the door wasn’t pulled in properly. When she saw me there in pain she struggled to take me to her car and she took me to the hospital.

The doctor told me that if I didn’t get there in the time I did, I would have been a dead man. It turned out that my appendix was inflamed and it was hours away from being ruptured. When I woke up out of my sleep, there she was sitting down beside me. When I looked over and saw her, tears came from my eyes. It was at that moment that I knew, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this woman.

I ended my so-called relationship and on the evening of Christmas day, I took her out for dinner and asked her to be my woman. Sadly, she said no. She told me that as much as she wanted to be in a relationship with me, her condition will be a major issue. With tears in her eyes, she told me that her last boyfriend somehow contracted the HIV virus and had passed it on to her.

MUB, we both started to cry. Not only did this guy ruin her life but he created a roadblock that is now preventing me from being with an amazing woman. My desire to officially start a relationship with this woman on Christmas day was ruined.

I will forever love her, but MUB, I want your followers to know that this thing call cheating and being unfaithful to your partner is life-threatening. If they are involved in the practice, they need to consider a lot more than their selfish desires. Being unfaithful and irresponsible has the potential to destroy your partner’s life.

So, if you know that you’re not ready to be committed and maturely take responsibility for your partners well being, leave people pickney alone so that someone who is willing to be their world can have the opportunity to do so without any roadblocks.