I Made A Big Mistake Putting Man Before My Education

Dear MUB,

As I am writing this to you, I am looking at my 1-year-old son who’s a splitting image of his father and I’m literally crying my eyes out. Don’t get me wrong, I love my son and I am happy that I brought him into this world but I am extremely heartbroken because I put my education on pause for the man who I thought was the love of my life just so I could make him happy and he turned around and made a fool out of me.

About two years ago, my  boyfriend told me that he wanted to have a child. I was extremely happy when he said those words to me but at the time, I was working on my Bachelor’s degree so I asked him to wait until I am finished for us to start our family. Of course, he agreed but I could tell by his reaction that he was disappointed.

The following week, he came back again telling me that two years is a long time and he’s not getting any younger. I stood firm and told him if he really loves he will wait. MUB, it only got worse. Every day he would come with something else. I endured his naggingness for months. It got so bad that at one point, he threw away my birth control pills. He was beginning to annoy me to the point that I had difficulties concentrating on my studies. I started feeling bad and I  eventually gave in. We agreed that he would quit his second job so that he could help me out with the baby so I would have time to continue my degree online.

MUB, I made the necessary arrangments, went against my parents better judgment, put my degree on pause, stop taking my birth control pills and I got pregnant for the only man that I’ve been with from since I was 16 years old. About 3 weeks after I had my son, I found out that he was cheating on me with his ex-girlfriend. MUB, not only was he cheating on me but I also found out that she gave birth to his child 4 months before I had my son.

The evening when he came home, I confronted him about it and he started one big argument with me, pack his things and left. MUB, I swear my soul left my body. The feeling that took over my body when he walked out on me, is the worst feeling I’ve ever felt in my entire life. I cried and had to force myself to eat for weeks. Just for the sake of my son. My mother had to lie down with me for weeks while I cried myself to sleep. At one point, I even thought about taking my life.

MUB, it’s been exactly 1 year and 3 months since I have last seen that wicked man. One of his family members told me that he’s married and now living in Canada. I thank God for my understanding and loving parents. The allowed me to move back in with them and they are currently helping me to take care of my child. I got a job and I’m trying my best to look after my son and to save up some money so I can continue working on my bachelor’s degree.

The reason why I’m writing to you is so that none of your followers will make the same mistake that I did.  I followed my heart and not my brain. I was blinded by love and in the end, I was the one with my heart at the the sharp end of the knife.

Never let any man or woman, no matter how much you think you’re in love, convince you to put your education on hold. If they love you, they will be will stand by you side and ensure that you achieve your goals.